Avoiding toxic positivity in hypnobirthing
Preparing for birth with realism & optimism
We're big fans of hypnosis for birth! It's one of the very few reliable forms of learning real skills for decreasing discomfort in childbirth. However there's one big problem within the field of hypnobirthing: toxic positivity. The idea that if you just think enough about the birth you want, it will happen. And that if you just learn to relax well enough, you won't have any pain during childbirth.
At HelloBirth, we support a subtle yet powerful change towards the philosophy of pragmatic positivity.
Pragmatic positivity begins with the facts.
The fact is, birthing a baby and bringing that baby home to care for are experiences that represent many different feelings to many people. At times it's intense, at times it's challenging, at times it carries some risk. At times it is also amazing, empowering, joyful, healthy and safe. In all ways possible it is certainly life-changing. The HelloBirth approach focuses on helping you learn skills that can be applied within many different experiences.
The optimist and the pessimist
"Thinking positively is actually thinking more realistically.
In HelloBirth classes, we teach a simple form of mindfulness to put a framework around these ideas.
- Most people who practice these simple ideas in daily life find them very helpful.
- If you don't find them helpful, there's nothing wrong with you. It's just not your cup of tea and there are other types of techniques to try that would probably work better for you. HelloBirth classes provide choices and options and we always recommend seeking the support of a mental health professional if you're having any trouble with the techniques taught in a HelloBirth class (or any other birth class).
HelloBirth brings you:
- Practical, effective hypnosis-based tools. They're not simply meditation tracks, they are teaching tracks. Listen a few times a week or as often as you'd like. When you reach your birthing day, you'll have specific skills that work in the moment to help keep you focused and more comfortable. This holds true whether you birth unmedicated or whether you need or choose a Cesarean.
- Confidence-building exercises
- Evidence-based information to guide your decisions
- A philosophy and a culture of pragmatic rather than toxic positivity
- Containers for each phase of the process, so that students know how to express their needs and let their voices be heard.
We believe all births and all choices are valid. Whatever your experience is, you'll be cared about and supported. We've even added a special postpartum track to the HelloBirth program that focuses on your birth story.